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Dear Serena,


I am a young black man who is independent, reliable & single. 

I have a little girl who I love with all my heart who I’m struggling to see  because of my ex-girlfriend.

I never cheated on her! We drifted apart due to differences in opinion. I don’t understand why she is making it so hard for me to spend time with my daughter when there are loads of men out there who run from this responsibility...

Any advice?











 Dear Serena,

I am writing to you as I don’t know what to do about my relationship, with the man I love. We have been together for a few years and I think he loves me; it’s just that he blows hot & cold. 

Sometimes he’s lovely dovey but most of the time he’s cold and dismissive. When I try to talk to him about how I feel, he tells me that I’m too sensitive. 

It’s really getting me down, I feel like half the woman I was before we got together; what should I do?





Dear Serena,

I am part of a group of girlfriends; recently it has transpired that girlfriend #2 has caught wind that the boyfriend of girlfriend #1 

has been cheating on her with an harem of women. 

However, she insists that we should not tell her; I feel very uncomfortable about not informing girlfriend #1 about her boyfriends dishonesty especially since she has cried to all of us that she suspects something.


I have expressed my feelings to the other two members of the group and they have chastised me for wanting to reveal this information to our friend. 

The reason for keeping this information quiet is that they want no part of the scandal. 

Regardless of their motives for withholding this type of information, I feel awful. 

It has been over 6 months.

What should I do?